Great Minds?

What happens when great minds DON’T think alike?

We recently heard that saying about great mind’s thinking alike, looked at each other, and laughed.  OK, so we, Gram and Imma, are really only half brains, we still do NOT think alike!  We would probably do better under the heading of “opposites attract”.

Gray's Anatomy 737 emphasizing corpus callosum.

Gray's Anatomy 737 emphasizing corpus callosum. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

So how do we work together?  Very well thank you!  God did a great job when He created the brain.  We have a little something called the corpus callosum, a bundle of fibers, that connects us and helps us communicate with one another.   Even though most people favor one half of their brain over the other, both are important to overall functioning.  Angie tests as 50/50 for her brain, and that’s why she is able to function in either mode and understand us a bit better than some.  So how do we do it?  (And yes, this applies to any people-in the same head or not-who differ.)

1.  Agree to disagree.  Yes, at times we disagree with one another.  After all, well look back at previous posts if you want to see details, we are sooooo different in our approach.  We have to live in the same head, however, so we agree to disagree.

2.  Work together.  When we work together, we draw on the strengths of both.  Gram is in charge of editing, and Imma makes sure to create.

3.  Value the other’s strengths (and weaknesses).  When we value one another, we treat one another with respect.  That means that, even in disagreement, we can see the other’s viewpoint and reach an agreement on which way to go with a writing project.  We complete each other in many ways, and together we are stronger than either would be alone.

4.  Choose your battles.  We read a post on My Big Red Dress recently where she talks about asking the question, “Is this the hill you want to die on?”  This is a good way of putting it.  Not every thing is worth battling over, so choose wisely and learn to let go.

5.  Don’t throw the baby out with the bathwater.  We don’t have to throw away the whole person just because we don’t like parts of him or her.  We ALL have horrible monsters living in us flaws, and need to remember that when we engage with others.


How do you handle disagreement (in your own head or with other people’s heads)?  Do you have any good advice for dealing with differences?   Do you battle when surrender would be better?  Do you find it hard to see a person as a whole, and not just focus on the flawed parts?  Do you remember that the person’s flaws may be in your perception and rub you the wrong way because they are too much like you?  {Another post for another day 🙂 }


Thank you for dropping by our cottage cheese brain; we hope you enjoyed our post.  Gram and Imma 🙂



  1. Hi Angie, thank you, very interesting, I’m Dyslectic so I’m suppose to favour the creative side of my Brain but I’m also very analytical and can also see outside the Box and the whole Picture not just parts but I agree when it comes to new curtains or what is the best footy team etc we can indeed agree to disagree but not so with God’s Truth as He tells us we are to bring our differences to Him the reason we have so many differant Denominations, House Churches and even Cults is because people although they claimed to agree to disagree they really didn’t and so it ended in division, yes if Heresy is being taught we are to leave but this has to be confirmed by God’s Truth as revealed by The Holy Spirit with the confirmation of the Scriptures not just by our own agenda. God is a God of Unity not division but we can see this happening in the early Church and Paul warned against it.

    There is only one Truth and The Holy Spirit does not say one thing to one person and something differant to someone else if they contradict although He may teach us Truth through differant ways at differant times which we can share with others but of course everything must be confirmed in Scripture. If we have asked for and received God’s wisdom we will be in agreement. When we are Born again we have the Mind of Christ and He brings us all to Unity in Him so that we are in agreement…. How good is that!

    There are many Scriptures that confirm this Truth I will just share some of them with you….

    1 Corinthians 2:16 For who hath known the mind of the Lord, that he may instruct him? but we have the mind of Christ.

    1 Corinthians 1: 10 -11Now I beseech you, brethren, by the name of our Lord Jesus Christ, that ye all speak the same thing, and that there be no divisions among you; but that ye be perfectly joined together in the same mind and in the same judgment.

    Philippians 3:14-16 I press toward the mark for the prize of the high calling of God in Christ Jesus. Let us therefore, as many as be perfect, be thus minded: and if in any thing ye be otherwise minded, God shall reveal even this unto you. Nevertheless, where to we have already attained, let us walk by the same rule, let us mind the same thing.

    Phillipians 3:15 Let us therefore, as many as be perfect, be thus minded: and if in any thing ye be other wise minded, God shall reveal even this unto you.

    2Corinthians 13:11 Finally, brethren, farewell. Be perfect, be of good comfort, be of one mind, live in Peace; and the God of Love and Peace shall be with you.

    Christian Love from us both – Anne

    • “not so with God’s Truth as He tells us we are to bring our differences to Him” I agree that God’s truth is God’s truth and no questions asked. However, we can’t force other people to agree with us. We may lead them by our example, but even God doesn’t force us, He extends free will to all. I know what you are saying though. Church is definately not a place to agree to disagree on things that are absolute in scripture. BUT, not really talking about that kind of disagreement here, talking about differences in taste, …. I’m glad you came by. God bless 🙂 Angie

      • Hi Angie, very True we can’t force anyone but it’s good to remember that Faith comes from hearing The Word which is Truth, some plant and some water etc but the ground needs to be prepared and God’s wisdom empowered by The Holy Spirit is the fertiliser we need to ask for it with all our heart because we are not born with it.

        James 1:4-6 But let patience have her perfect work, that ye may be perfect and entire, wanting nothing. If any of you lack wisdom, let him ask of God, that giveth to all men liberally, and upbraideth not; and it shall be given him. But let him ask in faith, nothing wavering. For he that wavereth is like a wave of the sea driven with the wind and tossed.

        Christian Love Anne.

  2. I try to use the five points you listed above in my marriage. It works for the most part, except when I’m in a sensitively-aggravated mood (or he is). But we all get that way sometimes; after all, no one’s temperament is perfect. I find that accepting my husband for who he is, letting go of the “flaws” (which are actually subjective), not letting minor stuff bother me, focusing on his strengths, and accepting that we have different perspectives on things, helps keep the marriage going smoothly. We would love each other even if we were always at odds with each other (been there), but focusing on the good stuff and talking about the bad stuff makes for a more enjoyable married life.

    • Hi Christine. Sounds like you’re well on your way to many years together with the marriage. We’ve had our years of constant conflict as well, but seldom fight after 30 years and a lot of learning about how to fight fair, among other things. You either take the whole package or nothing with anyone you choose to have in your life. Communication is key. Too bad that’s another one of those things we are seldom taught. Thanks for dropping in. 🙂 Angie

  3. Hmmmmm….. can I apply this to teenage sons?

    • Absolutely!!!! I hope they grow out of it by the time they are in their 20s, however 🙂

  4. Kana Tyler

    I used to bristle when my dad told me the reason my mother and I butted heads was because we were so ALIKE. As a teenager, the last thing I thought I wanted was to be (gasp!) LIKE MY MOTHER. But I’ve realized how correct he was–and now I realize what a compliment it is… Now we’re on the NEXT generation of that cycle, yikes! 😉

    • Ha ha! I hear you!! Only my daughter is like her dad!!! As I age, I become more like my Mom, and I consider that a great compliment. If only we understood this before it becomes hindsight!


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